Not To Get MarriedMarriage, according to our ancient culture, is a commitment that is meant to be kept forever. Nowadays, but, the scenario has a bit changed with several people opting not to get married. The phenomenal rise in the divorce rates all over the world in last few years is also a cause of worry. Here are six important reasons why marriage gains negative points among the couples of this generation.

1) Untimely Death of Love

Love is a strong emotion that is above any legal bindings. Marriage is nothing more than a piece of paper, a legal contract. It also results to a ‘taken – for – granted’ attitude towards the relationship, thus, decreasing the freshness of the relation and lowering the feeling of love for each other. The decision to be with someone should only be based on feelings of love and not on any legal paperwork. Marriage decreases the value of true feelings and the relationship is then, valued merely, on that piece of paper.

2) Loss of Freedom

Everyone wants to be independent in their life. Marriage is like a full-stop to the free-spiritedness in any person. Important career and life decisions, then, have to be taken considering the marital responsibilities. The impulsiveness and carefree attitude are soon replaced with compromises and sacrifices. Very often it turns out that wearing a really short dress, a night-out with friends, an office trip, a late-night drive, etc. are no longer your own decision, but involves your partner, too. The spontaneity that was once a bonus in your relationship with your partner is lost somewhere, never to be found again.

3) Legal Troubles

Legal matters brings in much complexities if things grow really rough between a husband and wife. It might sound harsh, but there is only 50-50 chance that the marriage will work out. Divorce is far more stressful than a break-up. The emotional trauma of losing the one you loved might be the same, but the legal procedures of divorce are a great headache. People often push on things just to avoid the court and lawyers. The effort to save a relation is only worthwhile if one actually wants the relationship to work. It gives a sense of freedom and peace to know that you can walk out, hassle-free, if things do not work out between you and your partner at any point of time.

4) The Financial Troubles

Marriage ceremony in itself is a huge loss of money. People spend great sum of money to get married. The regular budget also increases when you are married. And then there is an additional trouble as you have to answer about your expenses and savings to your partner. ‘My’ then quickly changes to ‘our’ and sadly, often there is not much you can do about it. This even arises problem in the relationship itself. And God forbid, if a marriage ends in divorce, then it is the most expensive of all!!

5) Living-in is Fun

Marriage is no more the only option for couples who want to stay together. Many couples, nowadays, opt for a live-in relation over marital ones. It is fun to be in a live-in relation. You share with your partner whatever you want to, but you do not end up being answerable for everything. Every responsibility is happily shared between both the partners, unlike in a marriage where the wife, in most cases, is the only one taking care of everything at home. The element of surprise and romance is not lost. Things are more friendly and warm where you respect each other’s views and care for each other more. The love is fresh, young and strong, as it is the only thread that holds the relationship.

6) The Family Trouble

Marriage is often a great burden for the woman. Even in modern marriages, women are mostly responsible to take care of the in-laws, the children, even the relatives and also do the house chores more than that of the men. It is extremely difficult for a woman to juggle the duties of the house as well as maintain their career and individual jobs. It often leads to depression, lack of sleep and poor health. The career often lacks the necessary attention in such a case.

‘Happily ever after’ might sound great, but the actual facts are far distant from this fairy-tale description of marriage. It is a fight altogether, not for the faint-hearts.

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